We can "hardwire" happiness by savoring what we have-- its easy, and such an important habit to get into, especially in such an addictive, material and consumption- encouraging world.
When you give to someone else, it helps you feel closer to them. eg., Keeping an outlook of goodwill towards another such as in prayer --even if its not all genuine at first can totally transform you into a place of Love-- Ive seen it in myself & it is Sooo worth it!
In personal & addiction recovery programs, resentment is known to be deadly, as something that must be dealt with positively to move on. I see it as cunning & powerful as any addiction and highly toxic. But I need to be convinced of that to let it go. I have seen anger consume people, but I cant convince anyone of that. They must find that truth in their own reflection, maybe writing, & more. If one looks truthfully, the pain of carrying anger must convince one of its toxicity and fruitlessness.
All the spiritual books say anger is deadly. The remedy is the honest reflection, and the willingness to let it go - I need a Higher Power for that.
Spirit can give me that, I cant do it without help.
Self righteous recounting of slights, etc., gets me more toxic on the inside, in my heart and feelings. Writing or talking it out can help too—but not for toxic recall. To heal, i have to look at my part in my reaction.There is something wrong with me when I feel the angst, and that’s what I need to focus on.
Whatever it takes to make me realize that it is my work on myself that is vital-- not what someone else did or didn't do, that is what I must do.
I see Resentment as a disease as powerful as any addiction and it can be just as toxic. i need to be convinced of that to be willing to take the powerful measures needed to be rid of my anger and its recounting. Reflection in the light of Spirit, truth and the recurrent pain may or may not convince me. In the 12 step programs, there is a method of writing that helps reveal the underlying truth of what we are doing to ourselves in stuffing, stowing, otherwise ignoring or carrying our anger inside.
"Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die."
-- Malachy McCourt
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